How to tap for decision-making is made easier in this article. For example: "I want to know how to resolve indecisions such as part of me want to go out, and part of me want to stay home; or part of me want to go to the gym, and part of me want to stay in bed".
There are two parts of this dilemma that I see. Let me put them forward to you and see what resonates. The first part is the easy one. It is about how use EFT to decide between two options. The second part involves more complexity within the issue that seems to be the problem but is actually just a surface issue which may or may not respond to tapping directly on it.
For the first part, the tapping procedure is a very simple adaptation. Let us take the example of part of me wants to go out, and part of me wants to stay home. Draw on a piece of paper or in your mind's eye, a horizontal line. On one end of this line write "Go out". On the other end of this line, write "Stay home".
Now run your finger along this line. Keep going back and forth slowly until your finger rests at a point. This point is closest to the option that you currently feel closest to. It may be in the middle, or it may be closer to, for example, "Go out", or it even may be exactly at one option, for example, "Stay home". Do not think too much about this, just allow your finger to feel its way and quickly mark that point without any further thought. Then tap, using your favourite form of EFT. For example, you can simply have the Setup, if you use one, of "I allow what is right for me right now, and that's OK", or "Even though part of me wants to go out and part of me wants to stay home, I deeply love and accept myself", Then tap on all your usual points, one at a time, interchanging the statements "Go out" and "Stay home". Do two round of EFT tapping like this, then re-assess.
Repeat the above step exactly as is. This makes it very simple. When your finger finally rests on one point closer to, or on, one of the two options, and that finger position does not change, then you are done. That option is your final decision.
If the above tapping keeps oscillating and changing for over an hour, then stop. This is where the decision does not involve something simple but something more complex. Somehow and subconsciously, the decision in this case would mean consequences, and it is the consequences or the root causes thereof that you need to tap on. The following list of consequences are all from client experience in actual client sessions. Read them and see which resonates more with how you feel: "If I go out, I might meet someone, and that means commitment and that means suffering like my parents did"; "If I go out, I might be unfaithful"; "If I go out, I will have to find interesting things to say"; "I'm too fat to go out"; "If I stay in, that will mean I'm a boring person"; "If I stay in, they will talk about me behind my back"; "If I go out, it will be yet another disappointing night, and I am fed up with disappointment". All of these are tappable statements. Simply tap them on all the points, over and over again, alternating between the statement, and "Whatever my decision, it will be the right one for now." tap on anything that comes to you from this. Ideally, I would recommend at least one session with an EFT Practitioner for the complex situation, as it is good to have someone else hold a safe space for you while you tap. If you are adept at tapping on your own in safety, then just go ahead and explore all the possibilities that come from this tapping, step by step.
I hope this helps and wish you peace, calm, and satisfaction with your decisions.
� Suzanne Zacharia 2017. Of course, you are advised to consult with your medical practitioner before embarking on any course of alternative, complementary, or beauty therapy. Want to use this article? You can, as long as you credit me with it and invite your readers to get my FREE "EFT How-to for You" and regular free EFT Tapping script samples in my newsletter at http://www.EFT-Scripts.com - New to EFT? No worries, just get your own copy of "EFT How-to for You" and start EFTing with ease very soon!
By Suzanne Zacharia
Article Source: Decision-Making EFT Procedure
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Loneliness Can Be Hazardous To Your Health
Loneliness appears to impede immune function.
Loneliness may be hazardous to your health in a very concrete way. Blood samples collected from a group of medical students at the Ohio State University College of Medicine revealed important differences between those who scored high on a loneliness assessment test and those who did not. Lonely students were more likely to have reduced levels of natural killer (NK) cell activity, an indicator of immune response. "These cells have been shown to be of vital importance in preventing tumour development and spread," the Ohio researchers point out (Psychosomatic Medicine).
Being alone is not synonymous with loneliness.
But if living alone doesn't depress you, there's no reason this news should, either. As social psychology researchers Carin Rubenstein, Ph.D., a former associate editor of Psychology Today, and Phillip Shaver, Ph.D., of the University of Denver, have observed: Being alone is not synonymous with loneliness. If people feel lonely, it has nothing to do with the number of people around them, but rather with their expectations of life and reactions to their environment. And those are risk factors you can do something about.
Drs. Rubenstein and Shaver conducted their research b placing a questionnaire about loneliness in five U.S. newspapers, ranging from the New York Daily News to the Montana Gazette. Twenty-two thousand people over the age of 18 responded.
THE MYTH OF LONELINESS
While the survey did confirm that feeling lonely - regardless of living arrangements - is associated with greater health risks (people who said they were lonely were more likely to suffer from some 19 health problems listed, including such psychological symptoms as anxiety, depression, crying spells, and feeling worthless), results do not support the view that loneliness is a consequence of living alone.
Nearly one-quarter of the people who lived alone fell into Drs. Rubenstein and Shaver's "least lonely" category. Single people had more friends on the average than people who lived with other people and they were less frequently troubled by headaches, anger, and irritability.
POSITIVE REACTIONS
Two common responses to loneliness. Through their research, Drs. Rubenstein and Shaver also discovered that when people feel lonely, they generally react in one of two ways. In a "sad passivity" reaction, the person spends much of the time sleeping, eating, and crying. In a "creative solitude" reaction, the person overcomes loneliness through reading, listening to music, working on a hobby, studying, writing, or playing a musical instrument.
"Loneliness is often a synonym for boredom," Dr. Rubenstein says. "People who spend their time creatively when alone are learning to deal with solitude. In the process, they begin to feel more calm, creative, and happy."
Maturity, too, brings new perspective on solitude. Older people in their 60s and 70s adjust much better to being alone then younger people, says Dr. Rubenstein. One reason may be that they've grown more secure in knowing who they are.
Finding contentment in solitude requires self-confidence. You must be secure with yourself before you can find contentment in solitude. The trouble is, we often grow up in the constant company of others and come to depend on them for our happiness. It isn't until we're forced into "solitary confinement," often under grievous circumstances such as death or divorce, that our self-confidence comes to test.
"My own experience was typical," says David A. Chiriboga, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology and the director of a study on mental health and divorce at the University of California at San Francisco. "I grew up in a large family, always had room-mates at school, and got married as soon as I graduated. After my divorce, I found I wasn't used to being alone. It was devastating, frightening. For a long time, I would play the radio all day just so the house wouldn't feel so empty."
"Time passed and I started getting more comfortable with my life. Realizing that I could enjoy being alone was a major discovery for me."
When you find yourself alone, see it as an opportunity to discover yourself. Now Dr. Chiriboga helps ease through the transition to singleness. His advice: "When you find yourself alone, see it as an opportunity to discover yourself. Take it as a challenge. Find out what you want to do, and what gives you pleasure," he says. "Anyone can be an interesting person. All you have to do is look inside yourself."
Of course, when we look inward, the opportunity is there not only to understand ourselves better but to better understand those around us.
People in touch with their inner selves have a true sense of identity. "Everyone has an inner and outer self," explains psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Peter Martin, M.D. of Michigan. "The outer self deals with family, friends, culture, and all the other aspects of civilization. We modify and compromise the outer self to deal with the people around us. But the inner self is the true self. People in touch with their inner selves have a true sense of identity. They have a feeling of security in knowing who they really are. And by knowing their true selves, they can teach their outer selves how to better interact with others."
After all, mastering the art of being alone does not mean turning into a misanthropic recluse. People who are loving - who completely accept themselves and others - can be happy and content whether in a crowd of people or quietly at home by themselves. Trouble is, too many people who are suddenly faced with the prospect of being alone turn within at the expense of those outside. As a result, they may be depriving themselves of the love and affection they need to grow.
Depression, loneliness and boredom are symptoms of affection deprivation. "Depression, loneliness, and boredom are all symptoms of affection deprivation," says Allan Dye, Ph.D., associate professor of mental counselling and personnel services and director of the counselling and guidance centre at Purdue University. "And the first sign that someone's heading in the wrong direction is self-preoccupation. People who dwell too much on themselves, even if they don't think of themselves as lonely or bored, are probably not having enough goo contact with others."
"Healthful, enriching, mutual experience with others is the best counterweight to self-preoccupation," Dr. Dye continues. "You've got to get that focus off yourself. If you're feeling deprived of affection, turn your attention to other people. Get in contact, pay attention, listen and be aware. You become more attractive to others when you pay attention to them, and that leads to more affection directed at you."
Psychiatrist J. Ingram Walker, M.D. author of Everybody's Guide to Emotional Well-being, agrees.
"Altruistic people lose themselves in others," Dr. Walker says. "The process can block out depression, make us less aware of our own inadequacies, and help us surmount our personal problems."
When you focus on others, you feel better about yourself. "When you focus attention on someone else, you feel better about yourself," Dr. Buffington adds. "So when I get patients who have no caring relationships, I usually recommended they get involved in some small group that has a definite purpose. Probably no more than four people."
There's growing evidence that pets can also help satisfy our need to give and receive affection. Not that pets should be considered a substitute for people, but according to Aaron Katcher, M.D., co-author of Between Pets and People, for those who really enjoy the company of pets, they can provide a strong supplement to human relationships and in fact help to improve one's rapport with people. In this way they are a significant aid to loneliness.
Caring: antidote to loneliness. An important key, then, to warding off loneliness is care. Caring for yourself and what you really feel. Caring for others. Caring for life and everything around you.
"When you maintain a pattern of caring, whether for a house, a garden, pets, or other people, you are protecting yourself against despair," says Dr. Katcher. And in the process, you'll live a more happy and healthy existence - whether alone or in the company of others.
We 'humans' have got the life a billion years ago. There have been five mass extinctions in earth's history. We are living through the sixth. And now we too are running at a pace to end it all. This time it will be our fault.
The new discoveries and inventions have made our lifestyle full of convenience. But our bodies require work. Just like the sedentary water starts smelling, the sedentary lifestyle has given rise to many chronic diseases like the heart problems, diabetes and hypertension.
Today, the health researchers are suggesting that most of the chronic diseases that have appeared in man's life are due to STRESS. From where it has come. It is the bi-product of our so-called modern lifestyle.
We are standing at the edge of cliff. Immediate actions are required to bring back the healthy days. We must incorporate exercise, balanced diet, sound sleep, and the most importantly happy and positive thoughts to our lifestyle to get rid of all health problems.
I believe "The opposite of great truth is also true."
Day and Night, Work and Rest, Art and Science... they all looks opposite but my viewpoint is they compliment each other.
The more you relax, the more you active. Life is a balance between what we can and what we cannot. Learn to live between effort and surrender.
To read and follow good health habits visit http://growtaller4idiotsds.com.
By Andy Gibson
Article Source: Loneliness Can Be Hazardous To Your Health
Loneliness may be hazardous to your health in a very concrete way. Blood samples collected from a group of medical students at the Ohio State University College of Medicine revealed important differences between those who scored high on a loneliness assessment test and those who did not. Lonely students were more likely to have reduced levels of natural killer (NK) cell activity, an indicator of immune response. "These cells have been shown to be of vital importance in preventing tumour development and spread," the Ohio researchers point out (Psychosomatic Medicine).
Being alone is not synonymous with loneliness.
But if living alone doesn't depress you, there's no reason this news should, either. As social psychology researchers Carin Rubenstein, Ph.D., a former associate editor of Psychology Today, and Phillip Shaver, Ph.D., of the University of Denver, have observed: Being alone is not synonymous with loneliness. If people feel lonely, it has nothing to do with the number of people around them, but rather with their expectations of life and reactions to their environment. And those are risk factors you can do something about.
Drs. Rubenstein and Shaver conducted their research b placing a questionnaire about loneliness in five U.S. newspapers, ranging from the New York Daily News to the Montana Gazette. Twenty-two thousand people over the age of 18 responded.
THE MYTH OF LONELINESS
While the survey did confirm that feeling lonely - regardless of living arrangements - is associated with greater health risks (people who said they were lonely were more likely to suffer from some 19 health problems listed, including such psychological symptoms as anxiety, depression, crying spells, and feeling worthless), results do not support the view that loneliness is a consequence of living alone.
Nearly one-quarter of the people who lived alone fell into Drs. Rubenstein and Shaver's "least lonely" category. Single people had more friends on the average than people who lived with other people and they were less frequently troubled by headaches, anger, and irritability.
POSITIVE REACTIONS
Two common responses to loneliness. Through their research, Drs. Rubenstein and Shaver also discovered that when people feel lonely, they generally react in one of two ways. In a "sad passivity" reaction, the person spends much of the time sleeping, eating, and crying. In a "creative solitude" reaction, the person overcomes loneliness through reading, listening to music, working on a hobby, studying, writing, or playing a musical instrument.
"Loneliness is often a synonym for boredom," Dr. Rubenstein says. "People who spend their time creatively when alone are learning to deal with solitude. In the process, they begin to feel more calm, creative, and happy."
Maturity, too, brings new perspective on solitude. Older people in their 60s and 70s adjust much better to being alone then younger people, says Dr. Rubenstein. One reason may be that they've grown more secure in knowing who they are.
Finding contentment in solitude requires self-confidence. You must be secure with yourself before you can find contentment in solitude. The trouble is, we often grow up in the constant company of others and come to depend on them for our happiness. It isn't until we're forced into "solitary confinement," often under grievous circumstances such as death or divorce, that our self-confidence comes to test.
"My own experience was typical," says David A. Chiriboga, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology and the director of a study on mental health and divorce at the University of California at San Francisco. "I grew up in a large family, always had room-mates at school, and got married as soon as I graduated. After my divorce, I found I wasn't used to being alone. It was devastating, frightening. For a long time, I would play the radio all day just so the house wouldn't feel so empty."
"Time passed and I started getting more comfortable with my life. Realizing that I could enjoy being alone was a major discovery for me."
When you find yourself alone, see it as an opportunity to discover yourself. Now Dr. Chiriboga helps ease through the transition to singleness. His advice: "When you find yourself alone, see it as an opportunity to discover yourself. Take it as a challenge. Find out what you want to do, and what gives you pleasure," he says. "Anyone can be an interesting person. All you have to do is look inside yourself."
Of course, when we look inward, the opportunity is there not only to understand ourselves better but to better understand those around us.
People in touch with their inner selves have a true sense of identity. "Everyone has an inner and outer self," explains psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Peter Martin, M.D. of Michigan. "The outer self deals with family, friends, culture, and all the other aspects of civilization. We modify and compromise the outer self to deal with the people around us. But the inner self is the true self. People in touch with their inner selves have a true sense of identity. They have a feeling of security in knowing who they really are. And by knowing their true selves, they can teach their outer selves how to better interact with others."
After all, mastering the art of being alone does not mean turning into a misanthropic recluse. People who are loving - who completely accept themselves and others - can be happy and content whether in a crowd of people or quietly at home by themselves. Trouble is, too many people who are suddenly faced with the prospect of being alone turn within at the expense of those outside. As a result, they may be depriving themselves of the love and affection they need to grow.
Depression, loneliness and boredom are symptoms of affection deprivation. "Depression, loneliness, and boredom are all symptoms of affection deprivation," says Allan Dye, Ph.D., associate professor of mental counselling and personnel services and director of the counselling and guidance centre at Purdue University. "And the first sign that someone's heading in the wrong direction is self-preoccupation. People who dwell too much on themselves, even if they don't think of themselves as lonely or bored, are probably not having enough goo contact with others."
"Healthful, enriching, mutual experience with others is the best counterweight to self-preoccupation," Dr. Dye continues. "You've got to get that focus off yourself. If you're feeling deprived of affection, turn your attention to other people. Get in contact, pay attention, listen and be aware. You become more attractive to others when you pay attention to them, and that leads to more affection directed at you."
Psychiatrist J. Ingram Walker, M.D. author of Everybody's Guide to Emotional Well-being, agrees.
"Altruistic people lose themselves in others," Dr. Walker says. "The process can block out depression, make us less aware of our own inadequacies, and help us surmount our personal problems."
When you focus on others, you feel better about yourself. "When you focus attention on someone else, you feel better about yourself," Dr. Buffington adds. "So when I get patients who have no caring relationships, I usually recommended they get involved in some small group that has a definite purpose. Probably no more than four people."
There's growing evidence that pets can also help satisfy our need to give and receive affection. Not that pets should be considered a substitute for people, but according to Aaron Katcher, M.D., co-author of Between Pets and People, for those who really enjoy the company of pets, they can provide a strong supplement to human relationships and in fact help to improve one's rapport with people. In this way they are a significant aid to loneliness.
Caring: antidote to loneliness. An important key, then, to warding off loneliness is care. Caring for yourself and what you really feel. Caring for others. Caring for life and everything around you.
"When you maintain a pattern of caring, whether for a house, a garden, pets, or other people, you are protecting yourself against despair," says Dr. Katcher. And in the process, you'll live a more happy and healthy existence - whether alone or in the company of others.
We 'humans' have got the life a billion years ago. There have been five mass extinctions in earth's history. We are living through the sixth. And now we too are running at a pace to end it all. This time it will be our fault.
The new discoveries and inventions have made our lifestyle full of convenience. But our bodies require work. Just like the sedentary water starts smelling, the sedentary lifestyle has given rise to many chronic diseases like the heart problems, diabetes and hypertension.
Today, the health researchers are suggesting that most of the chronic diseases that have appeared in man's life are due to STRESS. From where it has come. It is the bi-product of our so-called modern lifestyle.
We are standing at the edge of cliff. Immediate actions are required to bring back the healthy days. We must incorporate exercise, balanced diet, sound sleep, and the most importantly happy and positive thoughts to our lifestyle to get rid of all health problems.
I believe "The opposite of great truth is also true."
Day and Night, Work and Rest, Art and Science... they all looks opposite but my viewpoint is they compliment each other.
The more you relax, the more you active. Life is a balance between what we can and what we cannot. Learn to live between effort and surrender.
To read and follow good health habits visit http://growtaller4idiotsds.com.
By Andy Gibson
Article Source: Loneliness Can Be Hazardous To Your Health
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