Handling Bullying or Abuse

Creating beliefs


Something happens. The human being looks at the situation and interprets it based on previous experiences. Then something similar happens again and the human being interprets it like before. If that kind of situation is repeated enough times, the human being will often confirm the interpretation and end up taking it as "this is the way things are." The first time the situation happens, the interpretation might be based on something apparently unimportant, a comment, a circumstance, even a movie or a book. But then, once the seed is planted, the belief starts taking root and becoming stronger with each confirmation. That is one way in which beliefs are created.

The other way has to do with emotions. When something causes a very strong emotion in us, be it positive or negative, that emotion can be strong enough to establish a new interpretation in our minds. Let's take the example of a near-death experience, an accident or a serious illness. How many people change their beliefs because of something like that?

Sometimes the interpretation confirms an already existing belief, which is then strengthened and reaffirmed, like a building block being placed on top of an earlier one, making the structure more solid and sturdier.

Let's now imagine a bullying situation, or any other kind of abuse for that matter. Everyone involved has their own beliefs growing stronger day after day. The bully harasses the victim and the witnesses watch. All the characters in this plot have their own beliefs guiding their actions.

Common Victim Beliefs

Most victims believe that they somehow deserve what's happening to them. When an abuser abuses them, they justify it in their minds, thinking things like... 'Yeah, I shouldn't have done that.' 'I don't deserve any better.' 'If only I could do things that way.' 'There's no way out; I am the weird one.' As a result of their previous experiences, they end up believing that they are at fault or that the situation is their fate. Which is why they can rarely defend themselves from their abusers: they think it's the way things are.

Abuse often starts in childhood. Many of those abused later already started developing this victim mentality in their early years by interpreting situations at home or at school. Abusers and victims were normal roles played by those in their surroundings. When they finally encounter their first abuser, their belief system is ripe to accept that view of themselves. Thus, children raised in environments in which abuse is common, are more likely to become victims or abusers than other children who grow up in environments without that kind of behavior.

Victims grow into victimhood. At the beginning, when the abuse is still mild, they start questioning their original beliefs... 'Could it be true that I am what this person is saying? Could I truly be like that?' When those original beliefs are shaken, the abuser increases the intensity of the attacks and the victim thus confirms the new interpretation. That is the reason why most abuse usually starts with verbal or psychological attacks; so that the victim's original beliefs, which act as defence mechanisms, are weakened and the abuser can move on to harder techniques.

Victimhood is also a self-fulfilling prophecy. Victims, when already believing their role, will indadvertedly attract abusers. For example, victims immediately change their physical posture upon meeting their abusers or other possible ones, adopting a victim attitude they might not be even aware of. A bullied child, for example, might cringe or try and hide while looking down whenever a bully or other possible bullies enter the child's space. The abuser will immediately perceive those invisible signs and identify and use that child as a possible victim if needed. Thus, the underlying beliefs of the victim end up confirming themselves over and over again.

Common Abuser Beliefs

'I need to be stronger and more popular to show the world that I am the best.' 'They're all going to see that I am in charge.' 'I will show the world that I am important.'

Most abusers crave respect and admiration. They believe that only by having them will others like them. Their actions are often focused on helping them shine or on helping them feel bigger, stronger, more powerful or mightier. They believe that others are there to serve them and support their growth. They don't even see their victims. Those other human beings are nothing but stepping stones on their way to glory.

Many abusers come from abusive environments and have abusive role models while growing up. The most important message they get is that being stronger and louder than others results in rewards. That is how beliefs such as, 'fortune favors the bold,' 'when the going gets tough, the tough gets going,' or 'if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself,' and other similar ones become their guiding principles.

Some others become abusers just for the opposite reason; because they don't want to be like the victims they see around them. To prevent being abused, they abuse others themselves. In this case, the underlying beliefs can be something like, 'weakness of attitude becomes weakness of character,' 'it's a sign of weakness just to let things happen' or 'big fish eat the small ones.' By believing this, they need to be stronger than others or else, they will fail. There is no other way in their minds.

Common Witness Beliefs

Something happens. Witnesses look and do nothing. What are they thinking? Many of them will be telling themselves, 'better them than me,' 'I don't want to attract anybody's attention,' or 'it's none of my business.' Some could even think something like, 'that person probably deserves it.' They justify their actions or lack of that way, so they can keep their peace of mind. Their beliefs offer them an excuse to do nothing about the situation. Fear, worry, self-righteousness or even a certain moral superiority are like this justified in the minds of the onlookers.

How should bullying and abuse be tackled, then?

All kinds of abuse need to be tackled from every perspective to effectively disappear. If abusers are only punished, they will abuse again. If victims are sent away, they will encounter new abusers. If witnesses are not considered, they will react the same way in the future.

There are two ways in which this type of violence can be approached, and both need to be done by professionals who are trained in these techniques. When working with each of the persons involved in a violent situation or with all of them in a group, no judgement should be made and no opinion should be criticized. After all, many of our beliefs we are not even aware of and very few people know that they actively believe certain things.:

One by one: working individually with the victim, the abuser and each of the witnesses, to help them first identify and then question and change their underlying, limiting beliefs. That is easier said than done, as people deeply believe their beliefs and can find many justifications and proof that their opinions are right and fair. Helping a person question beliefs is a slow, complex process than can cause insecurity, uncertainty and pain. But unless the underlying belief is changed, chances are that the same behavior will happen again. Many different tools can be used to help abusers, victims and witnesses; from coaching and mentoring to positive psychology, nlp and others. Some of the techniques that can be used to support those tools are roleplaying, story-telling, absolute forgiveness or mindful feeling, just to mention a few. A good professional will be able to use and apply a big variety of them, so as to choose the best approach with each individual.


As a group: working with all those involved in aggressions or violence is something I only recommend when the professional in charge has a very wide experience, as the situation will combine the fear and insecurities of all of them. Story-telling, roleplaying, mindful feeling and the victim's chair are some of the techniques that can be experimented with in combination with personal development methodologies in order for those people to identify, question and change the beliefs that lead them to their specific behaviors.


If violent behavior is to be erased from our societies, a joint, common effort needs to be made to help all those involved change their beliefs. If a teacher observes that a child acts in an abusive way or displays victim attitudes, the whole group of peers should be considered, and not just the kids involved. Likewise, if there is a case of violence at home, not only should the perpetrator and the direct victim be worked with, but also any other members in the household.

No human being is born an abuser. No human being is born a victim. We learn to behave the way we do because we adopt certain beliefs that lead us into behaving that way. Every human being has the capacity to learn throughout life. If the beliefs we learned to have before serve us no more, new ones can be learned.

Enjoy life... ALL of it,

Learn more in my book: What Story do You Tell Yourself? https://www.amazon.com/What-Story-You-Tell-Yourself/dp/1539414949

Healthy Mind In A Healthy Body

Healthy Mind Healthy Body


I want to always remind you that we are Spirit, Soul and Body, and we can only enjoy holistic health when all three areas are given attention. We need to be nourishing our Spirit, Soul (Mind) and Body to cope with much stress and anxiety that life bring.

Having and maintaining a healthy sound mind in a healthy body, will help you to unwind after a long day, and allow you to regain your focus, and enable you to develop an overall health and well being.

Self Care For A Healthy Mind

Self-care is just as it says, taking care of yourself. It is not just about getting a massage. It is any action you take to preserve and improve your health, well-being, happiness, peace of mind and a fulfilled life.

I want to emphasize something very important many self-conscious persons don't seem to be aware of.

Self-care is not for fools. Self-care is not for the weak. It is not a luxury, and it is not self-centered.

When you don't take care of yourself, are too hard on your body, or don't take care of your emotional needs, you are at a much higher risk for burnout, a variety of mental health issues including anxiety and depression, physical injury and illness.

Not taking care of yourself will always catch up to you sooner or later.

Sound familiar? May be you have had a wake-up call of your own.

I want to share with you 30 Self-Care Habits from Tracy Kennedy of Lifehack.org

She has combined 30 Ways to Take Care of Yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Of course I put my personal tone and touch in there, but the original is credited to Tracy

1. Breathe

Deep breathing increases circulation by bringing oxygen to your muscles and brain. This increased oxygen content leads to greater energy and healthier muscles, organs and tissues.

Breathe deeply more often. In fact, experts recommendation is to develop the habit of practicing deep breathing every day.

What happened when you started to read this? Did you take a deep breath? Great, you're already practicing self-care.

2. Eat Well

Your body is a machine and food is your fuel. Simple as that. I've learned two main things studying diets over the years and working with top health doctors:

First, focus on eating real, whole, nutrient-dense food; avoid processed foods and refined sugars. The truth is you should avoid all forms of sugar.

Secondly, find what works for you. There are lots of options out there - Paleo, Mediterranean, plant-based, you name it.

3. Stay Hydrated

The human body is composed of 50-65% water. Some parts of our bodies, like our brain, heart and lungs, are more than 70%. Drinking water is a simple, effective way to take care of yourself.

You should practice to start your day before breakfast, with a glass of warm water with some lime or lemon juice in it. That's a most effective way of activating your cell to fight and combat the many battles throughout the day.

Aim to drink eight 8-ounce glasses daily. It takes no extra time, energy and effort, so grab a glass and start hydrating.

4. Sleep

I used to wear it as a badge of honor that I didn't sleep much. However, increasingly more studies are coming out on the importance of getting enough quality sleep and, more importantly, the consequences when you don't.

The world over, people are being deprived of necessary sleep, and they are doing more harm than good to their health.

Make sleep a priority. Your mind and body will thank you.

5. See Your Doctor

How long have you been putting off making an appointment, tolerating constant pain or dealing with something that just isn't right?

Most things can be dealt with if they're caught early - and are much harder to manage if you wait. Grab your phone, schedule an appointment now.

6. Express Gratitude

In order to live a life we love, we must first love the life we live. Research continues to surface on the science and benefits of gratitude.

Gratitude is the quality of being thankful; we should be always ready to show appreciation for and to return kindness.

Being grateful is one of the simplest, yet most powerful, things you can do to take care of yourself. Here're 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

7. Take Supplements

Name what ails you and research or ask your doctor (preferably an alternative medical practitioner) what vitamins, minerals, or herbs can support your health and well-being.

For example, those with a B-12 deficiency are much more likely to experience anxiety and Vitamin D deficiency has been linked to all sorts of health problems.

I take turmeric/curcumin to reduce inflammation, and B2 and magnesium supplements recommended by my neurologist for hormonal migraines.

You should be willing to include supplements in your diet. Because what you are doing is supplementing your diet with those nutrients absent from your daily consumption that the body requires.

Always make sure to check the quality and efficacy.

8. Hug Your Kid, Spouse or Loved Ones

Based on scientific findings, the benefits of hugging go beyond that warm feeling you get when you hold someone in your arms. Scientists say that giving another person support through hug, can reduce the stress of the person, especially in difficult moments.

They believe that the stress-reducing effects of hugging might also work to keep you healthier.

Hugging boosts your oxytocin levels (the love hormone), increases serotonin (elevates mood and creates happiness), strengthens the immune system, boosts self-esteem, lowers blood pressure, balances the nervous system and releases tension.

Only a few seconds can put you in a positive mood.

9. Meditate

Yep, you knew this was coming, didn't you? However, when I think of meditation, it has nothing to do with practices that have Eastern mysticism as their foundation.

From the Holy Bible, Psalm 19:14 states, "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer."

My meditation is to focus solely on the Word of God and what it reveals about the God of the Word. So, if you're one of those people who think you can't meditate (I feel you, I was one of you!), no more excuses. Try it.

10. Get Bodywork

I said that massage wasn't the only form of self-care, but it is a good one!

Bodywork is a staple of my self-care routine. Our bodies store emotional tension in ways that we don't even realize, and bodywork allows us to release that tension.

Options include chiropractic, stretching, cranial-sacral therapy, myofascial release work, osteopathy and reflexology.

11. Take a Hike

Get the blood flowing. We all know the benefits of exercise. This might be a walk, run, hike, trip to the gym, yoga or stretching. Whatever you do, get your blood and body moving.

Ever year the Men's Ministry in the church where I worship, plan a hike to the Blue Mountains. That is the highest peak in the island of Jamaica.

That is indeed a good workout, because if you are not physically and mentally ready for it, you might not make it to the top.

12. Spend Time with Those You Love

Schedule a date night with your partner, a special day with your kiddo or happy hour with your BFF. We are biologically hardwired for relationships and connection.

Studies prove that people who socialize often have higher levels of happiness. This doesn't have to be face-to-face; sometimes a phone call is all you need (and can fit in!).

13. Take a Vacation (or a Staycation)

More than 50% of Americans don't use all of their vacation days. Take time off away from the routine of life. Make time to have fun, recover and re-energize.

Especially for partners who are experiencing some challenging situations. Be it relational, marital, family or job related, breaking away from your familiar environment can heal.

14. Do Something Just for Fun

When was the last time you did something because it was fun or gave you joy? Not because it had a tangible benefit, purpose or ROI?

Crank up the music and dance. Laugh with your kids. Head to the bowling alley. Play a game. Write. Buy flowers. Follow your passions. Attend a fun event.

The real ROI? A better, more energized, happier self.

15. Treat Yourself and Your Body

When you look good, you feel good. You are what you think about yourself.

Get a haircut, have your nails done, enjoy a facial, manicure or pedicure. When we take care of how we look physically, we feel better emotionally.

16. Spend Time in Nature

Studies have shown spending time in nature has a wide range of health benefits including lowering your stress hormone levels.

Get outside, create a backyard garden and mingle with nature.

Head to the forest, hit the beach or take a hike. Walking barefoot and 'grounding' can be especially healing.

17. Eliminate Toxicity and Negativity

Toxic people are contagious. Make a conscious effort to hang out with people who feed your soul and make you feel energized and alive. Eliminate or reduce the amount of time you spend with people and situations that drain you or leave you feeling exhausted.

Surround yourself with love, encouragement and positive energy.

18. Take a Bath

This is a simple and inexpensive way to take care of yourself.

Add in a little Epsom Salts, essential oils or that bath bomb you have lying around. Light a candle, sit back, relax and unwind.

19. Practice Self-Reflection

Self-reflection is about taking a step back and reflecting on your life, behavior and beliefs.

Take time regularly to hop off the hamster wheel of life. Think about what's working and what's not, acknowledge your wins and successes; identify what to keep and what needs to change.

Try journaling or check out tips for self-reflection here: How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life

20. Feed Your Mind

The number one way to positively feed your mind is to read the Word of God every day. Another way to feed your mind and educate your philosophy is through the writings of influential people. Maybe you can't meet the person, but you can read his or her books.

Learn something new! As humans, we have a need to use our full cognitive capacity. We are here to grow and evolve and learning is a huge piece of us feeling energized and alive.

Take a class or online course. Read a book. Listen to a podcast.

Healthy mind

21. Lend a Hand

We also have a need for significance, contribution and making a difference. Among many other benefits, volunteering has been shown to help people feel healthier and happier.

22. Unpack your Baggage

Self-care is about taking care of your whole self. Often this means dealing with emotional trauma, past events or limiting beliefs.

See a therapist. Talk to a coach. Have the conversation you need to have with that person you've been angry with for decades.

23. Be Adventurous

Get outside your comfort zone. Be brave. Challenge yourself.

Whether that be a backpacking trip, trying a new activity, or pushing yourself physically, mentally or emotionally, you'll feel proud, confident and strong.

24. Tidy up!

There's a reason Marie Kondo has become a sensation. When we seek minimization in our homes, schedules, and lives, we feel more at ease and less stressed.

Try simplifying one area of your life and experience a new level of peace. Have a read on Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing, it may inspire you a lot!

25. Feed Your Spirit

Remember you are Spirit, Soul and Body. Ignoring any one can cause your life to be unbalanced. How are you feeding your soul? This can be anything that relates to you feeling inspiration which means, 'in spirit'.

Connect with what makes you feel close to something deeper, bigger, higher - or makes you feel more connected to yourself. This might include Christian meditation, spiritual or religious study.

26. Get Creative

We all have a need to grow, use our creativity and express ourselves fully. Find your creative outlet. Paint, dance or take photos.

Not artistically creative? Ask questions, problem-solve or build something.

One of my daughters loves building. When she ideates, draws up plans and brings them to life, she is noticeably happier and more confident.

27. Be True to Yourself

Self-awareness and being true to yourself are essential to living a happy, fulfilled and successful life; therefore, these are critical elements of self-care.

Listen to your inner voice. Identify what you need. When we are out of alignment with ourselves, we are more stressed, overwhelmed and at higher risk for health issues.

You can only be true to yourself when you have found your true self. You can only know yourself through your creator. And the creator has revealed Himself through His Son Yeshua.

28. Set Boundaries

This is important to healthy relationships, a strong sense of self-esteem and healthy life. You must know what you will and won't accept.

Identify where energy is leaking out from your life. If you continue to give when you have nothing to give or say 'yes' when you mean 'no', you will continue to suffer.

Know, acknowledge and honor your limits and boundaries - physically and emotionally.

29. Escape

While avoidance and numbing can be detrimental, a little escape can help recharge your batteries.

So watch that reality TV show without guilt, catch the latest movie, delve into that novel, or head to the museum. What transports you and completely allows you to shut off?

30. Be Nice to Yourself

Be kind, patient and understanding. Treat yourself like you would a close friend. Speak to yourself as you would someone you love.

You are enough. You are doing enough.

Give yourself a break, a little more love and a lot more compassion.

You are doing a great job - time to tell yourself that.

Healthy Body and Mind

Eight Hours Work Week For Healthy Mind

Research findings show that eight hours per week (or one day) work is the optimum for your mental health. The study revealed that in order for you to stay mentally healthy, or healthy overall, you should only be working for eight hours per week.

Those researchers are from the Universities of Cambridge and Salford. They "say that is the most "effective dose" of work in order to reap the mental health benefits of paid work."

I believe these research findings and results are in keeping with the order in which the world is turning. By that I mean, robots and technology are gradually taking over the work human use to do.

Therefore, all these things are being done to mentally prepare the population for a take over.

So when the time comes for little or nothing for us to do, we are already prepared for the little or no work and I am fine.

The article carrying the report in the Shields Gazette ask the question, "is any work good for my health?"

The reporter said that the study was carried out in order to establish the ideal amount of work a person should do each week for their well being.

Anxiety and Depression in the UK

Anxiety and depression are a deadly combination, they will destroy you in no time if allowed to run unchecked. Here is how one woman in the United Kingdom described her ordeal with...

Her name is Arin West who struggled with this problem for a decade. She said "sometimes, even getting out of bed became an overwhelming struggle.

Anxiety is a feeling of unease, such as worry or fear, that can be mild or severe.

Everyone has feelings of anxiety at some point in their life and this can be quite normal.

However some people find it hard to control their worries, making their anxiety more constant and can affect their daily lives.

In 2013, there were 8.2 million cases of anxiety in the UK according to the Journal of Psychopharmacology.

Depression is more than simply feeling 'unhappy' or fed up for a few days.

It's a real illness and can make you feel persistently sad for weeks or months.

According to the National Institute for Health and Social Care Excellence, depression affects nearly one in six people in the UK.

Studies have shown that about four per cent of children aged 5 to 16 in the UK have anxiety or depressed."

To conclude, here is a healthy mind quote from Goodreads.com: "Don't let sickness, depression, and disease THUG YOU OUT. Eat healthier, think healthier, speak healthier, and more positively over your life.

When you do so, you will soon begin to conquer your life and your health through new found empowerment- mind, body, and spirit."

It is Adrian T Brown here your health enthusiast with a profound question for you: Why Are People Sick?. You may or may not be responsible for your present health status.

One thing is for sure, you can do something about it. What you think, say and do, believe it or not is creating or destroying your health.

Starting today, right here, right now, can be the beginning of a disease-free, pain-free life. Tips To Your Health is where you should start, take action...

Are They Real? Breaking Free From Scary Intrusive Thoughts That Drive Anxiety

I have to guess as to what you really, exactly mean but I'm going to presume you mean something along the lines of 'do they mean anything? Or 'are they true'? Or 'Is this who I really am?'


In that context, NO, the thoughts are not real. They are just thoughts that have no real meaning on any level. They are not real on a conscious or a subconscious level. They are just some particular thoughts, or even just one particular thought that crossed your mind and gave you a jolt of fear when you were in an anxiety state.

Now, here's where they are real. Your body thinks they are real. No, you are not going to lose control of your bodily functions and act out on whatever your brand of intrusive thoughts is. I mean, your body is reacting to extreme fear just the way it's supposed to. You see, your body doesn't know if something is fear from imaging something or seeing something. Your body reacts the same way. Adrenaline picks up. Your fight or flight reactions kick in. Blood flows from your head and other organs and systems that aren't needed for fighting or running away.

Back in the cave man days, we needed those reactions to either fight that sabre tooth tiger or run away from it. All of your energies are diverted to your hands and legs because those are the functions that are going to save you.

And this is why facing your fears and letting your body go through with its physiological response is a key to recovery from anxiety and even panic attacks. When you sit there are tell your body to do its worst you are also telling your body you aren't afraid. Your body interprets this as 'there's nothing to fear here, carry on.' And then all those symptoms and feelings that are freaking you out, fade away.

It takes time though. It takes time for your to prove to your anxiety brain that there's nothing really to fear here. Everything is okay. You don't have to stand at the door like a watch dog

You can also find a safe haven at within the private Facebook Group call Intrusive Thoughts OCD Answers... and Peace! You are welcome to join. If you have no one to talk to, or you're too ashamed to say anything to anyone, including a doctor, you'll be comfortable here. 
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DJ Patterson has successfully recovered from Intrusive Thoughts, Anxiety and now coaches others to peace of mind. Get more insights. Request the Natural Ways to Heal Your Anxiety email series.

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Understanding Suicide

If the human body were a house, etheric energy would be its electrical system. Multiple shorts or breaks in the circuitry can prompt thoughts of suicide. When a fuse blows (actual or emotional), chaos is released through outlets like amps and anger.


No one is designed to survive alone. Feeling isolated and detached from a primary family unit causes overwhelming fear for certain people. They are the artists, writers and empaths of society-the 'sensitive' ones. They are the first lost during tough times.

Even the subtle threat of being separated from a family system can kick survival tactics into gear. Panic starts to rise at all the scary possibilities. The option of surrender starts to whisper to the unsettled mind. Later, it looms as the only possible way out.

Before the suicidal ideations begin, which is usually quite young, a DNA code arrives at birth. That is the 'nature' that meets 'nurture' and often courts disaster. The odds against some surviving, much less thriving, are minute.

The blessings are the 'Dandelion Children.' These are the survivors that thrive against all odds. They came here with an understood mission and begin early in life. Most continue an underlying vocation for life-like music, art, writing or preaching.

Others leave this world for '15 minutes of fame.' Online reports of the mourning and attention given suicide victims offers the fantasy of finally getting some much-needed attention. 'Attention Deficit Disorder' is what many family relationships should be called. No one is being heard in some family units-the weakest will silence himself.

Others experience suicidal ideation as the end of a long, painful journey. Many have suffered the entire duration. No one ever dreamed of walking sad, alone and in pain through the course of life. Only a few understand that we all walk in pain, focus is the difference. Re-living disasters and losses keeps them alive, fresh and still wounding.

Every person that survived jumping off a major bridge said the same thing, each regretted it the moment the hands left the rails. To date, not one challenged his own life again.

Suicidal ideation can be chemically caused and corrected. Emotional imbalances are more of a challenge because the root of the depression, OCD or PTSD must be found and eradicated for healing to begin.

Other countries are finding a form of guided meditation effective in dealing with PTSD or 'war fever.' The U.S. is finally offering desperate war veterans some relief with changing cannibas use laws hopefully lowering their daily suicide toll.

Everyday fear and worry can be so intense, they exhaust the sufferer. Potentially, peace or purgatory could be on the other side of suicide. When the pain is enough, the decision gradually takes shape and a plan is formed. At that point, doctors hospitalize for safety.

If a patient is self-aware enough, she can check herself in when suicidal ideation becomes pervasive thought. Anger and depression which began with hurt and frustration eventually festers until expressed-either inwardly or outwardly. Turned inward, it can trigger suicide. Homicide is on the other end of the spectrum; it is anger and rage turned outward.

The great unknown stops some suicide attempts. Religious beliefs come forth with different strength when the soul is on the line. To some, purgatory may sound better than 'hell on earth.' Deciding to stay may require a new set of skills to process pain, trauma and loss.

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How To Look Good Without Spending A Fortune

Can you name someone in your acquaintances who do not want to look good? You will not find a woman who does not care about her looks. All women are beauty conscious and receiving compliments on your looks makes your day, isn't it? Beauty does not come free of cost. You have to spend countless bucks on cosmetics and on other things which will elevate your beauty. How about looking stunning without spending a lot of money? Is it possible? Yes, it is. In this article, you will get to know how you can look beautiful without spending a fortune.


Get a Ravishing Look without Blowing Your Budget
Pay Attention to Hygiene: A good look starts with hygiene. The expensive cloth you wear will not be able to make you pretty if you smell bad. Therefore, it is necessary to smell good all day long. Take a shower on a daily basis. Use a fragrant soap which will make the fragrance last for a long time on your body. Keep your teeth clean by brushing and flossing regularly. Keep your body odor away by wearing washed clothes and by spraying a mild perfume on your body.

Style up Your Hair: You do not have to spend a lot of money on the salon. When it comes to your hair, you can do the styling of your hair at home. A good styling of hair starts with washing your hair once a week. Brush your hair before it gets messy. Read online fashion magazines to know how to give a great style to your hair. 
Wear Clothes as Per the Shape of Your Body: A loose-fitted cloth can never get you the look you desire. Hence, you should be careful when you choose your outfits. Make sure to wear an outfit which would be well fitted on your body. Get your clothes stitched and designed properly as per the shape of your body from your dress designer. 
Moisturize Your Skin: Investing in a good moisturizer will bring a natural glow to your skin. On browsing several online cosmetic stores, you will get a wide range of moisturizers. Dump the chemical-based moisturizers which may affect your skin. Switch to the Amazing Aloe Vera Skin Care moisturizing cream which is made up herbal essential oils and the extracts of vegan plants. This moisturizing cream contains Vitamin E, coconut oil, macadamia oil and avocado oil to keep your skin hydrated from within and to unleash the natural glow of your skin. The anti-aging properties such as Shea butter, lavender, Aloe Vera and chamomile will not only keep your facial skin nourished and moisturized, but also the ingredients will help prevent your skin from getting wrinkled.

Adorn yourself with an Exquisite Piece of Jewelry: In order to look attractive, you do not have to spend on the expensive jewelry piece. You can purchase a fine piece of jewelry which will not cost you much. A nice-looking jewelry piece on your wrist or around your neck will give the elegant touch in your appearance.

It's Amazing Isn't It, How Life Can Often Get in the Way?

This year has been one of my busiest ever. Then I suddenly realised that I had locked in outside activities on more than half of every week. And that that was is NOT good. Not for me and certainly not for my health and fitness. SO - time to forget sitting at the computer working on more research and so often shooting out to help with this group or that. Time to focus on what I need to do for me that will also help me as well as everyone else. 

FIRST Update my wall chart to include both my commitments for others as well as my new commitments to MYSELF. Which are:- 
Walk for at least 1 hour, three times per week. There are beautiful walking areas in my area, somewhere I can start to use the hiking poles I received from my son as part of my Christmas present. Even though the weather has started deteriorating and we are definitely deep into winter, it's never as bad as when I lived in the far south. And I now have the gear to be able to accomplish this. 
NEXT Eat good, home cooked food regularly, avoid the foods I shouldn't eat. (Not easy that, I slipped up again as recently as yesterday. OOpsy I promise to do better). My last check up was very good, my health, as usual up to par. I continue to take the medication I need and also the supplements I have found that work for me. I have been and continue to be, aware that I need to care for myself first before I can be of use to others. 
AND With that in mind here are my latest thoughts, funnily though these days the stray thoughts just seem to pop up out of nowhere. 
"Darn it!! You've reached the big 5-0, or 6-0, or even worse, 7-0 - gulp! What to do now? Do you retire to the sofa as some did in the long ago past? Prepare yourself for "OLD AGE"? - Horrors! Perish the thought. 
But - if you are anything like me, you're not READY for old age yet. So, what do you do? Well, when my other half left me a widow, and after the first very long months (of which I have no real recollection) had passed, I suddenly found I was a single person again. A 'mature' single person who didn't know what to do with myself now that I was no longer part of a couple. I tried reclining on a sofa, but I couldn't sit still long enough, so the only alternative was to sit up and think. 
As a result I have spent plenty of time since researching ways of staying healthy and fit. For after all, I am now wholly responsible for my own health and fitness. My first forays took me out walking, weather permitting and after a while it no longer took half an hour just to walk into my local village and back. And after an even longer time, I was walking for up to an hour and a half, sometimes covering 5+kilometres. 
Today is the day I resume living my life with a healthy work/leisure balance. Today is also the day I commit to updating my blogs more frequently. 
And having written the previous, I managed to succumb to a flipping bug, which put me in bed AND on the dreaded sofa, for over 2 weeks!!!! 
I finally believe that I might now survive and, with the winter in full swing, (cold windy with too many wet days), I will just have to wrap upon those days I can do so, to take myself down onto the gorgeous walks in my local Karangahake Gorge. I am really looking forward to getting my feet under me again. I have a lovely thick infinity scarf, made last year, & a very windproof jacket, courtesy of my late husband 
So, if the rain holds off till after lunch, off I will go. 
I WILL get fit again and I now truly believe I will survive this darn bug. 
Watch this space!


Hilary A Green, copywriter to the health and insurance industries. http://www.hilaryagreen.com. Researching and writing about health matters are my major focus these days. Also writing White Papers, newsletters and articles, which takes most of my days. If you want someone to help with the words you need to inform and attract, I can be contacted on hilary@hilaryagreen.com

5 Diet Myths Exposed: Start Losing Weight the Healthy Way!

This can be the year you finally drop those excess pounds, achieve a strong, streamlined body, and give your health a huge boost with a commitment to sensible eating.


But in order to reach your healthy weight and keep it there, you'll have to sidestep a lot of diet minefields. So many nutritional myths and faddish ideas are out there, you could easily wind up sabotaging your weight loss efforts and compromising your health, without even knowing it.

NEWSFLASH: 
58% of consumers are actively trying to lose weight to improve either their appearance, health or both, according to the Natural Marketing Institute's Health & Wellness Trends Database.

MYTH #1: YOU HAVE TO GO ON A DIET TO LOSE WEIGHT.

REALITY: Most diets don't work. Instead of following the latest fashionable weight loss program, you should develop healthy, fat-burning habits and make them part of your daily life.

INSTANT ANALYSIS: 
Atkins, Zone, Ornish... How do they stack up? A recent study tracked the weight loss results of obese people who followed popular diet plans for one year. In order to achieve a healthy Body Mass Index (BMI), most subjects needed to lose 41.8 lbs. At the end of 12 months, those on the Atkins low-carb plan lost 10.4 lbs; Zone moderate-carb dieters lost 3.5 lbs; and Ornish low-fat dieters lost 4.9 lbs. With all three diets, most of the participants started out as clinically obese... and ended up as clinically obese, with only a very modest weight loss to show for their year-long dieting efforts. On all three diets, the subjects experienced most of their weight loss in the first two to six months, and then began regaining most of their lost pounds.

GOOD HEALTH TIP: 
It's easy to get discouraged about dieting when you keep trying the latest trends... and failing. The best way to achieve permanent weight loss is to incorporate reasonable, nutritious, and enjoyable changes into your life that you can stick with over time.

NEWSFLASH: 
Consumers employed several lifestyle changes to help manage their weight in the past year.

• Smaller portions at mealtime 
• Making slight lifestyle changes 
• Regular and consistent exercise 
• Eating smaller more frequent meals 
• Making drastic lifestyle changes 
• Working with dietitian/nutritionist

MYTH #2: DIET FOODS ARE A GREAT HELP FOR LOSING WEIGHT

REALITY: Many "low-fat" foods are surprisingly high in sugar content - and calories. That's because manufacturers often add sugar to compensate for the diminished flavor and texture that results from removing fat.

GOOD HEALTH TIP: 
Secrets of Sneaky Sugar: A sugar by any other name is still sugar. Your "diet" food can contain added sugars in different guises you may not recognize. Here are some names to look for on the ingredient list: brown sugar, corn sweetener, corn syrup, dextrose, fructose, fruit juice concentrates, glucose, high-fructose corn syrup, lactose, maltose, malt syrup, molasses, sucrose, syrup. 
So what's a conscientious dieter to do? As always, the battle of the bulge is ultimately won in the arena of calories. Carefully check food labels for total calorie content... even when they're branded "diet" or "low-fat."

INSTANT ANALYSIS: 
The Great Cookie Caper: Let's compare calories of a regular chocolate chip cookie and a reduced-fat chocolate chip cookie. The regular cookie has 3 fat grams and 49 calories; the reduced-fat cookie has 2 fat grams and 45 calories. A 4-calorie difference is not going to get you into that bikini by summer! 
On the other hand, some low-fat choices can significantly slash your calorie intake. Don't want to give up cheddar cheese? One ounce of regular cheddar cheese has 6 fat grams and 114 calories; the same-sized low-fat portion has 1.2 grams of fat and an impressively reduced 49 calories!

NEWSFLASH: 
When the weight loss aim is to improve their health, consumers seem to eat a more balanced diet (e.g., less sugar, fewer carbs, etc.). In the past year, consumers limited their sugar, carbohydrate, and fat intake more often than they used diet food/products to help manage their weight.

MYTH #3: YOU HAVE TO STARVE YOURSELF TO LOSE WEIGHT.

REALITY: Yes, you do have to limit your calories to shed pounds, but there's no need to starve. You can cleverly choose foods that fill you up, not out - and keep you satisfied and stoked with energy all day long. What's your best bet for filling foods? Fiber-rich fruits, vegetables, legumes, and whole grains. Most Americans get only half of the recommended daily intake of 25 to 30 grams of dietary fiber, putting them at risk for obesity and a host of serious health problems.

NEWSFLASH: 
• 46% of consumers are choosing to eat fiber-rich foods as part of their weight management plan.10 
• Consumers who eat fewer carbohydrates to lose weight also eat fiber-rich foods (66%) and participate in regular and consistent exercise (61%) to achieve their optimum weight.

Fiber comes in two types, each with its own starring role to play in protecting our health and promoting weight management. Soluble fibers dissolve in water, and are associated with regulating blood sugar levels and lowering cholesterol. Insoluble fibers or roughage can't dissolve in water, but can absorb water. This causes them to swell, making them good bulking agents that improve gastrointestinal functions and speed up elimination. By eating sufficient amounts from both fiber types, you'll enjoy their full range of health benefits. Soluble fibers: apples, citrus fruits, pears, carrots, onions, sweet potatoes, squash, legumes, lentils, barley, oats, oat bran, oatmeal. Insoluble fibers: Cabbage, beets, Brussels sprouts, turnips, cauliflower, celery, cucumbers, zucchini, tomatoes, whole wheat bread, wheat cereal, wheat bran, rye.

GOOD HEALTH TIP: 
Here are a few ideas to help you incorporate more whole grains into your daily diet: 
• Create a whole grain pilaf with a mixture of barley, wild rice, brown rice, broth, and spices. For a special touch, stir in toasted nuts or chopped dried fruit. 
• Try rolled oats or a crushed, unsweetened whole grain cereal as breading for baked chicken, fish, veal cutlets or eggplant parmesan. 
• Freeze leftover cooked brown rice, bulgur, or barley. Heat and serve it later as a quick side dish.

INSTANT ANALYSIS: 
Decode the Food Label to Find Whole Grains 
• Choose foods that name one of the following whole-grain ingredients first on the label's ingredient list: brown rice, bulgur, graham flour, oatmeal, whole-grain corn, whole oats, whole rye, whole wheat, wild rice. 
• Food labeled with the words "multi-grain," "stone-ground," "100% wheat," "cracked wheat," "seven-grain," or "bran" are usually not whole-grain products. 
• Color is not an indication of whole grain. Bread can be brown because of molasses or other added ingredients. Read the ingredient list to see if it is a whole grain.

MYTH #4: FAT MAKES YOU FAT

REALITY: Your body needs fat to function. Fat provides you with energy, allows you to absorb key vitamins, and helps build cell walls and membranes throughout the body. Don't deprive yourself of health-giving, energy-producing fat.

NEWSFLASH: 
41% of consumers employed a low-fat diet in the past year to manage their weight. And consumers were heavily invested in the use of reduced fat food/beverages.

The trick is to consume the right kind of fat - and in the right amounts. If you're like most Americans, you may be getting far too much of omega-6 fatty acids... and not nearly enough of omega-3 fatty acids. 
It's easy to take in excess quantities of omega-6 fatty acids because the common vegetable oils in the American diet - such as corn, safflower and sunflowers oils - are packed with omega-6. So are meat, milk and eggs. Unfortunately, when you consume large quantities of omega-6, you not only gain weight, thanks to its high caloric content, you may also grow more susceptible to inflammation and thickening of the blood.

Omega-3 fatty acids, on the other hand, are hard to come by. The reason you're probably not getting enough of these health-giving powerhouses is that many manufacturers remove them to keep products fresh. You can ramp up your consumption of omega-3 fatty acids by nibbling on soybeans, walnuts, flaxseed, and alfalfa, and by adding cold water fish like salmon, mackerel and sardines to your menu.

INSTANT ANALYSIS: 
Here's a handy guide for getting a healthy balance of fat in your daily diet: Keep total fat intake between 20 to 35 percent of calories, with most fats coming from sources of polyunsaturated and monounsaturated fatty acids, such as fish, nuts and vegetable oils.

GOOD HEALTH TIP: 
Sip green tea, lose weight? The Chinese have long appreciated green tea for its remarkable ability to promote digestion, improve mental faculties, and regulate body temperature. Now an intriguing new study in Japan suggests that green tea may also have a helpful role to play in losing weight. Over a 12-week period, one group of men drank a bottle of tea containing 690 mg of catechins (from green tea) every day, while the other group consumed tea containing only 22 mg of catechins. The results showed that the men drinking the tea with higher catechins had lower Body Mass Index (BMI), body weight and waist circumference compared to the other group. So the next time you pour a soothing cup of green tea, consider that each sip may be helping your body break down fat, along with all its other benefits.

MYTH #5: SKIP BREAKFAST TO SLASH YOUR DAILY CALORIE INTAKE.

REALITY: While you may be tempted to miss your morning meal to save on calories, studies show that skipping breakfast can sabotage your diet efforts. A recent study examined the role that breakfast intake plays on body mass index and studied the effect of different types of breakfasts. After adjustments for sex, age and race, the results showed that people who ate different types of cereal had a lower body mass index than those who ate meat and eggs or those who skipped breakfast.

And, for girls, here's a fascinating look at the strong link between a healthy weight and breakfast: a recent analysis of government data on breakfast eating in teenagers (ages 12 to 16) showed that the thinnest girls are the most likely to eat breakfast. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the most overweight girls are the most likely to skip breakfast. 
Of course, not all cereals are created equal. You won't lose weight by heaping your bowl with sugary cereal, then drowning it in whole milk. Choose a low-calorie, high fiber cereal and limit your portion size to about 150 calories. Oatmeal is an excellent option for a satisfying, high-fiber jumpstart to your day. And try skipping the fruit juice, and eating the fruit instead. 
By eating a healthy, filling breakfast, you'll stay more in control of your appetite and be less prone to overeating later in the day.

GOOD HEALTH TIP: 
Breakfast bonus: Eating small meals more frequently may help lower your cholesterol. British researchers recently found that people who ate more than six times a day had lower cholesterol (by about 5%) than those who ate once or twice daily. The key is to eat small, healthy meals every three or four hours. 
Who Skips Breakfast? People who are losing weight to improve their appearance tend to skip meals more than those who are losing weight to improve their health.

NEWSFLASH: 
Frequent Weight Loss May Affect Immune Function 
You already know that going on fad diets can be frustrating, unhealthy and ineffective, because the weight you lose comes right back on, every time. Now there's another reason to end the "yo-yo diet" syndrome - it may compromise your immune system. Investigators studied a group of healthy, overweight, post-menopausal women and discovered that the more often the women had lost 10 pounds or more, the greater the suppression of their immune systems.

TO SUM IT UP: 5 DIET MYTHS EXPOSED

1. Avoid fad diets and concentrate on making healthy lifestyle changes.

2. Check the labels of low-fat "diet" foods for sneakily added sugars and high-calorie content.

3. Stave off diet-destroying hunger pangs with filling high-fiber foods like fruits, vegetables, legumes, and whole grains.

4. Add salmon, mackerel, sardines, and other cold water fish to your menu to 
increase your intake of health-giving omega-3 fatty acids.

5. Every morning, eat a delicious, low-calorie, high-fiber breakfast such as 
oatmeal with fresh fruit

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Art in Ibiza - A Well-Established Refuge for International Artists

Many artists have shown their artistic skills by making beautiful paintings in the surrounding of Ibiza. The artists visit the Mediterranean island to turn their imagination into reality. That is why there are a large number of museums and exhibition halls in the island that display the traces of history and works of art that depict the colors and lifestyle of the people living on the island.


Many artists from the different parts of the world have settled on the island. Ibiza has become a refuge for the artists, painters, and sculptors that visited the place looking for a secluded place where they could express their feelings in the form of art. The clear picture of the island is loved by painters and photographers who have gathered the different facets of the island's rich culture. The artists from the different parts of the globe have tried to capture everything from the landscape to the hippies to the old Ibizan culture and traditions in art.

There are a large number of privately-owned art galleries in Ibiza. Some of them include Cirque du Soleil founder Guy Laliberte's Lune Rouge in Ibiza town and La Nave Salinas in the small harbor. Many restaurants on the island also display the works of local artists in exhibitions such as the Art Café Can Tuxedo near San Rafael.

You can enjoy the art and culture of the island in the annual Bloop festival. The festival marks the celebration on global issues through art. You can see ideas are expressed through gigantic murals. You can expect live installations, interactive workshops, and music at the festival. There are other interesting art exhibitions on the island that keep the art and culture alive.

Museums

There are some of the best museums on the island such as the Mace contemporary art museum in the old town of Ibiza which shows the works of international artists. Another museum named the Museo Puget is located in Ibiza town and shows the artwork of two popular artists' sons of Ibiza, Puget Vinas, and Puget Riquer. The museum is located in a beautiful old palace. The works of the two painters are divided into different galleries.

There is an old country house near the church of Santa Eulalie that is home to the Ethnographic Museum of Ibiza. The museum shows the island's pastoral way of life including household utensils and farming equipment. You can also view old jewelry, traditional costumes, musical instruments, and weapons. You can imagine life on the island a couple of hundred years ago.

Art club Ibiza is an association of visual arts comprising artists of different origin. The main aim of the club is to make the artworks of its members available to the public through different exhibitions and events. Since 2007, the club has been organizing an Art on the Catwalk event. The event calls upon artists and fashion designers to send wearable art down the catwalk. It links to the people who are involved with the design. All outfits must be made from unusual materials and should match the styles of the season.

Enjoy your villas spain and write your own travel itinerary by booking villas with private pool.

Reasons Why Mallorca Is a Birdwatchers' Paradise

There are a large number of natural places on the beautiful island of Mallorca that make it a natural paradise. The natural riches of Mallorca are one of the main reasons that every year thousands of tourists plan their vacations to this beautiful island.


A birdwatching paradise

Mallorca is known as a bird watching paradise. The migratory birds that flee the cold European winter and head to the warm lands of Africa pass through the Balearic Islands. This makes it possible for the tourists to spot an endless variety of bird species in Mallorca during the migratory period. One of the best places where you can find a large variety of birds is S'Albufera Natural Park in Mallorca. The wetlands of the park are suitable for birds. Another beautiful area for bird watching is Vall de Boquer.

There are over three hundred species recorded with 220 on a regular basis which also includes passing migrants. In the spring hundreds of Eleonora's Falcons arrive here with a great selection of Herons in the north. Mallorca is the only island where the breeding of Black Vultures takes place in the world.

The best place to stay is Puerto Pollensa if you are visiting the island for bird watching. The place has its own little reserve of La Gola and the now opened visitors center for bird tourism on the island. Puerto Pollensa is situated near the Albufera Marsh, Boquer Valley, and Cap de Formentor. The island is the best place for bird watching during migrating times because birds make their final rest before completing their journey to breeding grounds or wintering grounds. A wonderful site near Puerto Pollensa is the tower at Albercutx where thousands of migrating birds can be seen including Raptors and Honey Buzzards.

Another popular spot for bird watching is the Bonquer Valley. It is a beautiful valley and stretches three kilometers north-east from the Port of Pollenca to the sea at Cala Bonquer. You can take your binoculars to watch the beautiful birds.

Another favorite place for the bird watchers is the Serra de Tramuntana. It is a beautiful mountain range and home to the most beautiful birds in the whole world. It is named a World Heritage Site by UNESCO. The best site to view the birds of the Serra de Tramuntana is the Lluc Monastery. It is a pilgrimage site in Escorca, North West Mallorca. It is situated at an elevation of 525 meters and is a beautiful place of the mountain range. A large number of beautiful birds live here. You can explore the surrounding routes on foot to discover the incredible landscapes and beautiful birds all around.

Spring and autumn are the best times to visit Mallorca for the bird watchers. You can get a chance to view the birds such as Eleanor Hawk, the Balearic Shearwater, the Black Vulture, and many migratory birds.

Book your stay in Mallorca

There are a number of places to choose from. The best is to choose a hotel or an apartment for your visit if you are visiting especially for bird watching. At the hotels and apartments, you can get all the modern amenities that you will desire on the vacations. You can choose an accommodation near the best bird watching locations on the island.

Enjoy your villas costa brava and write your own travel itinerary by booking villas with private pool.

Should People Above 40 Visit Ibiza?

Ibiza is the most wonderful place to visit in Spain. It is a popular area for clubbing. Many people believe that it is the place suited only for young individuals as party-goers visit Ibiza to have fun. But, it is a wrong belief because anyone can visit Ibiza to enjoy their vacations. People above 40 can also visit Ibiza to have a treat. The White Isle has still to offer for people over 40 years. Ibiza is much more than a party destination. Ibiza offers the glamour in a dazzling, Mediterranean setting, and a laid back captivating environment. It is the best place to spend quality and memorable time with friends and family. Here are some reasons why people above 40 can visit Ibiza:


Ambiance

You can visit Ibiza to have a good time with your family and friends if you are above 40. You can enjoy with the clubbers, the power players or the hippies. You can feel the good vibes on the island. You can soothe your soul with the chilled out atmosphere as you will step off the plane.

Scenery

Ibiza has breathtaking scenery with whitewashed villages such as Santa Gertrudis and Sant Josep, a beautiful sunset, pine forests, and interesting spots such as Es Vedra.

Food

Eating out in Ibiza is as much fun as clubbing. There are pop up restaurants that provide lip-smacking dishes. There is a wide variety of dining options, traditional taverns, trendy beach cafes, rural restaurants, and glamorous Miamiesque spots.

Accommodation

You can get a very good and convenient accommodation in Ibiza. You can either book a self-catering villa or a hotel room to enjoy your vacations. You can enjoy luxurious facilities in hotels and villas. Most villas offer a private pool with all the necessary amenities for the guests.

Beach clubs

There are many wonderful beach clubs in Ibiza. You can enjoy feasting on a Mediterranean lunch, washed down with a few cocktails, and relaxing on a daybed while a DJ is playing by your side. It feels like heaven on the earth.

Music

Wherever you go, the atmosphere is filled with the music. You can enjoy music on the poolside, in the hotel, bars, and everywhere on the streets. The music includes cool DJ mixes comprising old school tunes, Balearic chill-out beats, and classy club music.

Heritage

Ibiza has been a place for freedom and fun-seekers from around the world for many years. People of all ages visit this majestic town to have fun and enjoy their vacations.

Beaches

Ibiza has a vast stretch of white, powdery sand to rustic, pine-clad, pebbly bays. There is a wide range of unique bathing spots surrounded by crystal clear water all around. You can either choose to visit the seaside or total seclusion in the many hidden coves.

Clubs

Last, but not least, the clubs are the most popular place to visit. People from all over the world travel Ibiza to dance in the clubs to the best DJs. You can choose any of the popular clubs to spend a night out with your friends and enjoy the nightlife.

Enjoy your villa spain and write your own travel itinerary by booking villas with private pool.

A View in the Mirror, The Friendly Giant (2 Poems)

A View in the Mirror


I am the way that I am... and you are only you. 
There never has nor never will be any others like us two. 
Many things that's we've been told, 
They really hardly matter; 
They serve to hurt or separate, or lie or slightly flatter. 
Useless groups that people join 
And dearly pay the price; 
Some are only cheaters and some are not quite nice. 
Your race or nationality, 
Your age or height or gender; 
Whether you eat red meat 
Or put veggies in a blender... 
It doesn't really matter, it's all a silly game; 
We're all two-legged animals and rather much the same. 
We all behave the way we do for many different reasons; 
And that behavior seldom changes, 
As constant as the seasons. 
Hold a mirror to your face and tell me what you see; 
You see yourself, that's all there is. 
When I look... I see me. 
We can not be what we are not, 
Through someone else's eyes; 
To view another through our own mirror, is seldom very wise. 
I accept who I am and I know that I'm not you; 
No more than you can expect to see... 
Me, through your own view. 
That's why manipulation and fear are often used; 
To force someone to be another... serves only to abuse.

"Why must you be so different... 
Why can't you be like me?!"

"Because I'm not... I am my self, 
And my self is what I shall be!"

The Friendly Giant

Where does the friendly giant hide 
In this land of thoughtless pygmies? 
Where does Santa land his sleigh 
In a land of "gimme, gimme"?

Where does a bee seek nectar 
In a land of artificial flowers? 
How can one lead a stable life 
In a land of shifting hours?

Where can a ray of sunshine fall 
In a room where shades are drawn? 
Where can a thoughtful person thrive 
In a land so filled with brawn?

Where does the artist's eye find beauty 
In a land now ugly and bland? 
Where does the fish find a stream to swim 
In a land of arid sand?

Where does a man find honesty 
In a land where nothing is fair? 
Where does a tree grow tall and green 
In a land of poisoned air?

Where does the pioneer travel 
In lands where the borders are closed? 
Where does the minstrel sing his songs 
in a land where deafness grows?

Where does the craftsman sell his skill 
In a land of dubious wares? 
Where does the poet write the tender lines 
In a land where no one cares?

Where does a child learn to laugh 
In a land of frowns and sorrows? 
Where does the star man spin his tales 
In a land where there's no tomorrow?

Where does the giant hang his head 
In despair and utter sadness? 
He lives in a land that knows no joy 
And has chosen instead, sheer madness.

Diana Hunter McGuerty has been a teacher for over 35 years and a lifetime poet.

Diana's first published poetry book is titled Many Shades of Light: Reflections in Poetry

Diana's poetry book and other poetry can be found at: http://www.michaelmcguerty.com/shop/pagez/9?sessid=ULDtkQ6XugGZ3BWb0oLpnjYM9Wqs5NJlQJ7g6tz1pGerDLTwRe3KYwXSFIVcHkKV&shop_param=

Tracing Old Scottish School Records

In search of old school records from Scotland


I am searching for old school records (1840s-1860s) in order to find out which school my ancestors attended. I understand that it was not compulsory for parents to send their children to school until 1872 but surely there must be records somewhere in Scotland which references to the pupils.

My great grand parents are Robert Stewart who was born at Old Kilpatrick in Dumbartonshire in 1842 and Margaret Cochran(e) who was born at Helensburgh in 1834. Robert's parents were William Stewart and Ann Livingston(e). William was a cooper by trade and taught the trade to Robert.

This is what I know about researching school records;

School Records

Finding out which school your ancestors attended will take a bit of research. This will need some map reading to find out which school was closest to where your ancestors lived.

The Education Act of 1872 required all children to attend school and it can be difficult to find school records prior to this date. However you may find log books, admission registers, or photographs which do exist somewhere. There are also teacher's diaries which may be helpful, at least provide interesting reading.

Glasgow kept very good records as they were progressive school boards.

Scotland Street Museum has a good collection of information on a number of different schools.

A register of senior appointments and staff are available, and worth a look.

The teacher training college at Jordonhill has records which may be worth checking out if your ancestor was a teacher.

Tracing the name of a school master in the records would be comparatively easier than finding the names of the children. Parish school masters were nominated by the landowners and the minister of the parish. It was then up to the presbytery to make the final decision to ensure that the nominated person was qualified for the job. The Heritors Records is likely to contain the record of the appointment. This information can be found in the HR repertory,

Finding records of school pupils is difficult, however some may be noted in school log books and they had to be at least 13 years old. Such information would be held by the Scottish Record Office. Many records disappeared or were destroyed after schools closed. Some surviving registers are still kept by the schools themselves while others are held by authority archives. You can check out the Scottish Archive Network catalogue for your ancestor's school.

If anyone has information which may be useful in my search for old school records can contact me on kiltedkiwinz@gmail.com

The rivalry between Italy and France

The rivalry between Italy and France in the world of football is a legendary one, dating back to their first encounter in 1910. Both countri...